Slow Dancing in a Burning Room.

It's not a silly little moment
It's not the storm before the calm
This is the deep and dying breath of
This love we've been working on

Can't seem to hold you like I want to
So I can feel you in my arms
Nobody's gonna come and save you
We pulled too many false alarms

We're going down
And you can see it too
We're going down
And you know that we're doomed

My dear,
We're slow dancing in a burning room

I was the one you always dreamed of
You were the one I tried to draw
How dare you say it's nothing to me
Baby, you're the only light I ever saw

We're going down
And you can see it too
We're going down
And you know that we're doomed

My dear,
We're slow dancing in a burning room

 Lyrics by John Mayer (2012)

 I used to listen to this song on repeat as my own relationship was dying. I associated it with great sadness.

However, after time (the greatest healer) and reflection, I now equate it with hope. Not so much the poignant verses (they haven’t changed, obviously), but just one line from the chorus:

We’re slow dancing in a burning room.

That one line. I now associate it with barefoot waltzing in the dark. Slowly, with no particular steps. Swaying and just holding each other. Exact footwork fading into unimportance. The slow tempo of the song and haunting guitar seem particularly conducive to such an activity.

When was the last time that you undertook such a post-dinner activity?

I’m not sure that I’ve ever done it, however I do recall seeing my parents do this long after they had put us to bed.

Anyway, when I hear the song, I am now filled with hope that I will find myself invited to slow dance in a burning room with a temporary lover. (Candles only, not smoke and structural damage). And I want us to be giggling as we stand on each other’s toes and collide with furniture in the dark.

I’d like to issue a challenge to anyone who reads this post. Invite someone to slow dance in a darkened room with you soon.  Do it and savour the experience. Just be careful of your partner’s toes.